Kindness: Does it really matter?

Does kindness really matter? It should. Especially if you have a spouse and/or children.

No you do not have to be married or have children in order to be kind.

But I am stating that joy from mom and dad is great for kids. And some extra or lost love needs to be rekindled for your spouse.

     Some people might be able to be that special kid or spouse that can give you joy everyday, like it is a full-time job. Some people are part-timing it for now. But my heart does yearn to be kind to more people regardless of how people might react to my kindness.

But I do have to speak out on the people that cannot seem to lift a finger for the joy to be spread like, a "chain letter". There will be days where there some people that do not care for joy or kindness. There will be times when that kindness never reaches that second or third individual that really needs or deserves the joy.

This joy can be a hug, a note, or even a few dollars. Some of the kindness that a person can express is FREE.

Well today, right now, is the day to at least start a chain letter of kindness. The types of acts that are like a chain letter is like playing tag. Express that kindness to someone and then let them know to be kind to someone else in return. So, tag your it to be kind is the name of the game.

This act doesn't require much most people are automatically nice but resist the act in return. Which causes more resistance in the future to preform another act of kindness.

First thing that needs to be done is just to think of ways to be kind to a friend or family member and then move that same act to a stranger, such as a woman in the line needed a few cents at the checkout. Or an older man struggling with his cane in order to open the door to a store. All in all, doing the random acts of kindness does come back like KARMA does. So, what goes around comes right back around. What you do unto someone else it may come back to you twice as much.

Even speaking to someone while they are in line to buy coffee in McDonald's can be greatly appreciated. We live in a world where a lot of people are isolated by choice or by force. Someone that is isolated is not so open to trying new things or acting out kindness too often.

Just let your mind wonder about what could be kind and not flirting, what can be kind and someone will not look at you like your kindness is not for me today. Yes I have seen those faces before especially in retail.

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When we think about kindness we can say that it is and can be contagious. It's like pass the kindness on and keep it going. Hey why not. It's like don't drop the ball. There are some Random Acts of Kindness that can be very helpful. Check it out https://www.randomactsofkindness.org/

There needs to be a balance in most of our acts of Random Acts of Kindness. Most people are not that kind at home but then when we get to work and we are the most joyful person on the planet. This is only reality for some.

But it is harder to be positive than negative. It is harder to be kind than unkind. The reasons are endless for example but I do not know how to act kind and how to stay kind.

Now I do know some people that I've seen and experienced a lot of kindness and joy from some but those others that had no kindness to give. I was really looking for that joy that they were missing. I was concerned.

Why was it concerning to me? This has been on my mind because I know one day my child will experience an unhappy customer or coworker one day. I know my child might be really hurt by a person that may not know how to express their kindness.

I know I an optimistic about things and I feel as if I can really make a difference. I've tried to help locally and it has been hard. Especially in this world.

This world has been so hard on me but I have found some peace. I found some resiliency. Now, I am able to say that I love to help. I love people. I love to be kind but days I get consumed with negative vibes were I have to flush what I consumed. That act of kindness I really have been able to say that I wont stop being a kind person because of the unkind things I have encountered.

But, I woke up with some ideas of kindness. And yes, I did take into consideration of those that are very hard at convincing people that have no kindness left in them. So for most, some people that have no kindness left can still be able to receive the joy from others. And to see if a chance is there for them to spread the joy, love, and kindness that can give the necessary edge that they have been missing.

Think about it:

What if someone drove up to you gave you a hug and handed you $50 and said pass it on. Would you give all or some of the money to someone else?

Would you spend it all? What would you do? Would the kindness stop with you? Would you feel good giving a random person $50?

Think about it. Your character and attitude gets you through your day. Are you a person that can't seem to let it go? Are you a person that really plays the tick for tack game? What kind of person are you when you are mad?

Are you able to think differently after someone has tested your patience? How kind are you throughout your day? Can you really express joy?

Are you that person that likes to be noticed for their kindness?

All of these questions can be answered, but are you willing to be that person?

One thing is for sure when it comes to kindness, we need to know that being kind is a way of life. Be kind to your neighbor, be nice to a stranger. Most kindness can be really magnitize the universe to bring kindness your way. The universe can really help you feel the positive things in life a lot better.

I can say that some times I want to be recognized but at times I like the surprise and the mystery of the random acts of joy. I can now say that my kindness only needs to be recognized by the one I really want to give to.

Remember kindness is okay. Kindness gets better as you give it away.

Kindness and joy does matter so spread it!

HJ The Motivational Seeker